By Tom Mathei
Three Common Words All Seniors Use
Take it from a senior; the language of aging can often be unprintable in respectable venues, and hilarious in real life. A few years ago a blog, very much like this went “viral”, as in hundreds of millions of people all over the world read it as often as it updated. Oddly enough it was called, “S~~t My Dad Says”. They even made it into a TV sitcom. So I guess you could say there is great interest in what old folks have to say. Question: Are people really interested in what seniors have to say, or simply amused by the innocent ignorance of political correctness?
Seniors have a lot to say, if only one takes the time to listen. I’ll agree after you tune into seniors, you certainly do pick up on patterns. Remember, we were once your age. We also heard our parents talk about aches and pains and the last friend to pass away, until we cringed. We get it. However, if you find yourself in a serious discussion with a senior there is another pattern you will recognize. The three words “Quality of Life” keep coming up. Losing it represents the greatest fear of those approaching end of life in the age of science. All those machines that can keep your body alive don’t comfort us. They scare the living day lights out of us.
With all that said, it would be wiser to plan for, and give the three most common words used by seniors the attention they deserve. The problems of old age are well documented. The headliners are:
o Falling down
o Forgetting medication
o Becoming less mobile
o Financial viability
o Maintaining independent living, versus institutionalized assisted living.
Any and all of these can be the game ender for the quality of life, as can only be determined by the victim senior.
It is imperative that concerned family members and loved ones have a plan for the long term care of their seniors. Of course, when thinking of a plan, it is advisable to do it in concert with the senior’s perspective and input. Meeting with an In-home Care provider that can provide the plan detail should be strongly considered. In my book, that’s the place to begin this important process. Most seniors will tell you they want to stay in their homes. That’s because wherever seniors reside; they are most comfortable, at least emotionally, with familiar surroundings. However, they may not be safer, and that makes up half the headliners list of senior problems.
Aging changes us in many ways, yet the home remains essentially the same. It is a great idea to consult an In-home Care specialist. Modifying the home with subtle, yet simple equipment, such as grab bars placed in strategic locations can provide part of that safe “Quality of Life”, and at home, right where we want to be. As children of seniors struggle to keep their own families safe and happy, it is nearly impossible to keep up with the all the evolving needs of a senior and get it right. Do yourself a favor. Consult an In-home Care professional before making a move you might regret later. They can provide almost any service you can imagine, or need. They can customize a plan to include everything from medication management, light house cleaning and meal prep, to simply listening to the great stories of their lives. For my money, In-home care is the safest, happiest and least expensive plan for seniors to consider. Consult your senior’s doctor concerning In-home care before overspending on commercialized assisted living and under protecting the most precious people in your life.